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Monday, March 21, 2005

31: The Cultural Recipe for the Perfect Match

Here’s a little food for thought on teenage relationships. It’s a satirical article written by Charlie Meyer who pastors at Evergreen Community Church, which is one of our sister Great Commission churches in Lakeville, Minnesota.

The Cultural Recipe for the Perfect Match
By Charlie Meyer

Ingredients:
Take 6-18 young, tender, hormonally charged children. Prepare by removing moral beliefs and all respect for adults. Blend together sex education, MTV and internet. Marinate children 3-6 yrs in “their room”. Place together in an automobile one male and one female. Add just a dash of clothing and park in dark place for several hours at a time along with government supplied contraceptives. Add alcohol or other stimulants to taste. Let simmer. Each 1-6 months, remove one child and replace with different one of same sex from pool. In this fashion rotate all children through car in various combinations. Repeat for 6-10 years. Children are now ready to marry as many times as needed.

Friday, March 11, 2005

30: A Whopper

“Did you eat a Whopper?”
“No,” our five-year-old answered, “I did not eat a Whopper.”
Her brother had spotted her, and now she needed to admit it. Kath and I took turns interrogating her (and trying not to laugh).
“Are you sure you did not eat a Whopper?”
“No, I did not eat a Whopper,” she said adamantly.
“Let me smell your breath.”
“HHHHHHAAAAAA.”
Her breath smelled suspiciously like chocolate malted milk balls.
“It is important to tell the truth. I can tell you ate a Whopper because your breath smells like it.”
Her eyes roamed the room. “No I did not eat a Whopper today.”
“When did you eat a Whopper?”
“Daddy gave me some.”
“That was yesterday. Did you eat a Whopper today, because you have some chocolate on you face?”
“No,” she said as you could see the gears turning behind her eyes, “I did eat some other chocolate.” Her tongue reached out to the corner of her mouth to erase any evidence.
“Show us where you got it.”
She took us to the pantry and showed us a bag of piñata candy, which did not contain chocolate.
“Where did you put the wrapper?” Kathleen asked.
“In here,” she pointed to the pantry trash.
As Kathleen started digging through the trash our little girl started rethinking where the mystery chocolate wrapper had gone.
“Maybe I put it in the other trash,” she decided.
“Okay sweetie, that is enough. You are lying to us.” I very calmly explained, “I am going to spank you for lying and then I’m going to ask you to tell the truth. If you lie again I will spank you again until you tell the truth.”
We had actually had a similar round of discipline a few weeks ago, so I didn’t expect this one to go very long. Hopefully she learned that she would not win this battle.
I took her to the bathroom and gave her a good long controlled spank. Snatching a Whopper is not that big of a deal, but telling a whopper is. After I finished I stood her up and gave her a hug. “Okay honey, tell me the truth now.”
“I did not eat a Whopper.” (She’s got some spunk to her :-))
“I have to spank you again for lying.” Round 2 commenced. As soon as I finished and stood her up she broke.
“I DID eat a Whopper.” This time her cries were not from the pain, but from the relief of getting the lie off her chest. I hugged her again.
“Thank you for telling the truth. If you had told the truth in the first place you would have saved yourself a lot of trouble, and from telling more lies. That’s the way lies grow. When you tell one, you end up telling more. If you tell a lie, get it right at once so that it does not grow. I love you honey. Now go apologize to your mommy and your brother…”

Proverbs 12:22 The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in men who are truthful . NIV

Thursday, March 03, 2005

29: Circumcision

Question: What is the Christian belief about circumcision? Reading through the NT we have read a lot about it in Romans. From what we have learned regarding the health standpoint we understand it to be unnecessary. Religiously is it considered more of a metaphor for spiritual circumcision?

Response: That’s a great question. It’s important to seek God’s will for the raising of our children, even in the tiniest details of parenting. I think that is a great heart to have in all areas of parenting.

While this is a sensitive topic (ouch!), I’ll try to address it the best I can. In the Old Testament the cutting off of the foreskin was a requirement for all Jewish males and was performed eight days after birth (Genesis 17:10-14). However, I don’t think there is any spiritual reason to be circumcised according to the instructions and guidance given to us in the New Testament.

Since Jesus’ time that has all changed. The only thing we have to do to go to heaven is to put our faith in Jesus Christ, believing that His death on the cross is completely sufficient to pay for our sins. There is no amount of good works that we can do to sufficiently cover our sins, or even help in doing so. Circumcision will not help, and neither will going to church, giving to the poor, or even doing the best we can. The only thing that will pay for our sins is having faith in Christ’s death on the cross. As you read through the verses below I think you’ll find that we are clearly released from the act of physical circumcision. As you mentioned, the only positive references to circumcision after the time of Christ are those that speak of it symbolically.

I’ve heard both pros and cons for it medically. I’d tend to lean towards believing that it probably has some medical benefit, just because most of God’s commands seem to have an earthly benefit to obeying them.

So in short, I don’t see any spiritual reason to have a child circumcised, and my personal conviction for it medically comes in at a good strong 51% in favor of it. I think there is total freedom in this area; if you don’t have a compelling reason to do it, then don’t. If you think it may have some medical benefit, or have some other reason for having your child circumcised, then feel free to do it.


Here are some scriptures for further study:

Acts 16:3 Paul wanted to take [Timothy] along on the journey, so he circumcised him because of the Jews who lived in that area, for they all knew that his father was a Greek. NIV

Romans 3:29-30 Is God the God of Jews only? Is he not the God of Gentiles too? Yes, of Gentiles too, 30since there is only one God, who will justify the circumcised by faith and the uncircumcised through that same faith. NIV

1 Corinthians 7:18-19 Was a man already circumcised when he was called? He should not become uncircumcised. Was a man uncircumcised when he was called? He should not be circumcised . 19Circumcision is nothing and uncircumcision is nothing. Keeping God's commands is what counts. NIV (See 1 John 3:23)

Galatians 2:2-3 Yet not even Titus, who was with me[/Paul], was compelled to be circumcised , even though he was a Greek. NIV

Galatians 5:2-6 Mark my words! I, Paul, tell you that if you let yourselves be circumcised , Christ will be of no value to you at all. 3Again I declare to every man who lets himself be circumcised that he is obligated to obey the whole law. 4You who are trying to be justified by law have been alienated from Christ; you have fallen away from grace. 5But by faith we eagerly await through the Spirit the righteousness for which we hope. 6For in Christ Jesus neither circumcision nor uncircumcision has any value. The only thing that counts is faith expressing itself through love. NIV [Note that in Acts 16:3 Paul encouraged Timothy to get circumcised so that Jews wouldn’t get all caught up on that instead of focusing on the message of Christ. If we are trying to obey the law by circumcision, then we would be obligated to obey the whole law (which is impossible for us). However, it is possible to get circumcised or to circumcise our children for other reasons, just as Paul circumcised Timothy for other reasons.]

Galatians 6:15 Neither circumcision nor uncircumcision means anything; what counts is a new creation. NIV

Colossians 2:11-12 In him you were also circumcised , in the putting off of the sinful nature, not with a circumcision done by the hands of men but with the circumcision done by Christ, 12having been buried with him in baptism and raised with him through your faith in the power of God, who raised him from the dead. NIV

Colossians 3:11 Here there is no Greek or Jew, circumcised or uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave or free, but Christ is all, and is in all. NIV